Fear of Change

Fear of Change

Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly… Although we often say we wish things would change, most of us experience a healthy amount of fear and anxiety when it comes to real change. So, you may be unhappy in a career, relationship or life in general. You may think about making a change and consider the possibilities… but when it comes to taking the first step, it feels scary and daunting. It’s much easier to continue on autopilot even if you’re not happy.

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How to Be Cool When Being Around Family Causes Stress

How to Be Cool When Being Around Family Causes Stress

The holidays are supposed to be a happy, family time. Ironically, the holidays are also one of the most stressful times of the year—precisely because it’s family time. It’s a family tradition to all get together at Grandma’s or Uncle Bill’s even though that means you may have to travel in the dead of winter. The gift buying can be even more difficult than the travel as you try to squeeze it all out of  your budget. Once you make there, you may have to patiently listen to Aunt Alma aches and pains and her many doctor visits or Cousin Jimmy trying to convince you of his importance at his work. Additionally politics or current world affairs are topics no one can agree on, so steer clear of that. No wonder you get stressed just thinking about it.

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Managing Conflict During the Holidays (in a non-threatening manner)

Managing Conflict During the Holidays (in a non-threatening manner)

Conflict in friendships and relationships is a fact of life. It’s normal and healthy. Two individual people cannot always agree on everything. But when conflict involves strong emotions, it can lead to hurt feelings, resentment, and discomfort. The result?  More anger, more hurt feelings. There are healthy and unhealthy ways to manage conflict. Badly managed, conflict hurts people and harms relationships. Learning healthy ways to manage conflict can make your relationship stronger by encouraging all parties to grow and mature.

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