Lose Someone You Love? Relationship Break-up? Divorce?

As we go through life most of us know that a relationship breakup or divorce can be one of the most painful experiences you have to navigate.

In fact, almost anyone you ask can easily recall going through a relationship breakup and the emotional devastation and agony of a breakup. It can be extremely painful and leave you feeling empty and alone. You may find it difficult to believe that you will actually feel better at some point.

Consider some of these questions:

  • Feeling overwhelmed? Sad? All alone?
  • Maybe for now you are just in shock. Can this really be happening?
  • Are you unable to focus throughout the day because thoughts of him/her keep coming up?
  • Perhaps it is difficult to sleep at night because you can’t stop thinking about the break-up.
  • Wondering if you’ll ever get over him/her? Is it hard to think about moving on without him/her?
  • Do you experience intense waves of emotions that build and build until finally you burst into tears in a flood of sadness?
  • Maybe he/she has done something that crushed your heart and you feel shattered.
  • You may be questioning your worth.
  • Perhaps you are wondering if you should say or do something to try to get him/her back.
  • Have you lost some of your friends because they were people you both knew and now it feels uncomfortable to see them?
  • Are you wondering if you were just meant to live your life alone?

If you answered yes to many of these questions you may find it helpful to consider counseling for a relationship loss, relationship breakup or divorce.  I can offer caring and support and together we can sort it all out so you can get back on your feet.

In the United States, 40 to 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. These numbers do not include relationship breakups.

The loss of your partner may feel especially devastating because he/she was the main person in your life that you confided in and trusted. Now all of that has changed and not only have you lost him/her but you have also lost the hopes and dreams you had for the future. No wonder it’s so painful!

 

But How Can Counseling Help When my Emotions are Like a Roller Coaster?

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Counseling can help you understand your emotions and how to cope with them while you heal. It is normal to feel many conflicting emotions during this time, such as:

  • anger
  • resentment
  • relief
  • joy
  • confusion
  • sadness
  • depression
  • anxiety
  • fear
  • shock
  • denial

Emotions May Change From One Moment to the Next

  • You may feel sadness and loss.
  • The next moment you feel relief and joy.
  • You may experience difficulty concentrating.
  • You may be irritable more often than normal.
  • Your mood may fluctuate between highs and lows.

Physical Symptoms May Include:

  • Upset stomach/digestive issues
  • Headaches
  • Tightness in the chest
  • Chronic stress
  • Weakened immune system
  • Feeling tired or exhausted

Other Symptoms:

  • Unable to sleep
  • Loss of appetite
  • Overeating-weight gain
  • Feeling overwhelmed
 

 

    How Can Therapy for Relationship Loss Help?

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    Therapy for Relationship Loss can provide insight and help you realize that although it is painful, where you are right now is exactly where you need to be. Allow yourself some time. Reflect. It may be difficult but recognize the things you may have learned.

    Therapy can help you visualize moving forward.

    This means not staying stuck and bogged down in a place that is sad and hopeless. Therapy can help you imagine how life may be a year from now when the pain heals and you are back to feeling like you.

    What Will Therapy Be Like?

    Therapy can help you see our reactions as normal. As humans, by nature, we are wired to have powerfully painful reactions to loss. A cascade of chemicals are triggered in the brain with a relationship break-up or loss of a relationship. These chemicals can make you feel many things. Most of them not pleasant:

    • Therapy can help you realize that you are in a natural state of distress- you’re not crazy.
    • Therapy provides caring and support to help with your grief.
    • Counseling can help you gradually let go and adjust to what is

    Be assured that your outlook will shift in time.

    Counseling May be the Support You Need Right Now

    • Breathe.
    • Take each day as it comes.
    • One day at a time.
    • Trust that you will heal and one day feel much better.
    • Allow yourself the time you need.
    • There is no rush.

    Counseling Can Help You Have Hope for the Future

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    • Life has many ups and downs.

    • You won’t be in this place forever.

    • You’ll get through this and someday you will feel very different.

    If you need help with the loss of a relationship, call me for a free 20 minute phone consult. I can help.

     

    If and when you are ready to begin counseling for heartbreak, divorce, or relationship loss, simply, contact me by clicking here.

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